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Today I am 18. This is my 18th year orbiting the sun on this lovely planet and I felt inspired to do this post after reading the ones by Hannah over on hannclaire.com.
18 is a birthday like no other. I’m in a city I’ve never been in before, without my family, or closest friends. I am entering adulthood completely surrounded by the unknown.
I am in the beautiful, windy city of Chicago with my fellow student journalists.
I would hope that after being on earth this long (Wow, I’m old) that I have learned a few things. I am the bus driver of the struggle bus, and so today I’m sharing a few of the many things I’ve learned from all the bumps in the road.
1 – If you are young and don’t like coffee now, there’s like a 98.9% by the time you get to high school and/or college you will simply because you won’t be able to function without it. Facts.
2- Be good to people, ALL people. I mean absolutely everyone. Regardless of the circumstances. Maybe they’re having a bad day, or maybe they just happen to enjoy being a crappy person, but no matter how hard it may be, be good to them. There need to be more people in this world choosing positivity instead of spreading negativity.
3 – On that note, I know it is something everyone is guilty of, including myself, but don’t talk sh*t. When you feel in the mood to rant to somebody about someone else, take a deep breath, and find something constructive to do with your time.
Be creative, read a book, paint a picture, or do I what I do: Sometimes, I open up a blank document and write about all the things I want to rant about. Once it’s done and I feel better getting it off my chest, I exit the page and don’t save it. Sometimes that is all it takes, no hurt feelings necessary.
4 – The things you say will come back to haunt you, so once again, be the better person and don’t spread the negative energy.
5 – Don’t ever underestimate the worth of your own happiness.
6 – Driving isn’t as scary as I thought it was. Now I can’t imagine myself being stranded somewhere because I couldn’t rely on myself as my own form of transportation. It seems so crazy to me that almost three months ago driving still scared me to death, but now I can’t imagine not wanting to drive. Conclusion: Just do it. You’ll be okay!!
7 – Even the closest friendships may need a little distance to grow stronger.
8 – People do change, however, it is up to them, and them alone, if it is for better or worse.
9 – Always be yourself. I know its cliche, but seriously, be confident in your own abilities, decisions, and actions.
10 – Always advocate for anyone and everyone who needs it. There is always something you can do to help.
11 – It’s okay to take time for yourself. This applies to absolutely anything and everything. If you feel selfish about it, you’re doing it right. If you feel like you’re being selfish for wanting to be alone, that shows how much you really need it. We all need a little time to reflect and grow in order to thrive, so don’t feel bad for taking care of yourself.
SELF-LOVE ISN’T SELFISH
12 – Unleash your inner Mama Bear. Don’t be afraid to stand up for the people you love. It may take some time for you to learn how to stand up for yourself, but when s
13 – Although you will do everything in your power not to admit it, your parents are right most of the time.
14 – You don’t always have to agree with others, but you do always have to show them respect because everyone has a right to their own opinion.
15 – Don’t be afraid to step out of your comfort zone. The most amazing things can happen when you do.
16 – “Live in such a way that if someone were to speak poorly of you, no one would believe it” is the greatest quote to live by.
17 – Once you find what you’re passionate about and makes you happiest, don’t stop pursuing it.
18 – Don’t ever, ever, EVER give up on your dreams. You can’t place a price tag on a dream. Dreams are more valuable than any tangible good you could
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